Resources
I understand that you need help as soon as possible.
Due to my ongoing wait lists, I have created this resources page. I will be adding to this page over time. Feel free to send suggestions via the contact page regarding types of resources that would be helpful for you.
PODCAST EPISODES
Drinking With Gin Podcast with host Ginny Priem
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Episode One: Validation for Romantic Partners, Children, & Co-Parents of Narcissistic Abuse
Ginny Priem wrote this description of the episode:
Get a pen and paper! You're going to want to take notes on this one. Licensed Psychologist, Tanya Holthus, is sharing her wealth of knowledge and practical tips with us in this episode. She breaks down how being a child of a narcissist impacts you beginning from your formative years and how the emotional abuse endured can carry on in different ways in adulthood. Tanya talks about the spectrum of narcissism; from narcissistic behaviors & tendencies to narcissistic personality disorder (NPD.) She covers some of the key phrases we're hearing lately, like covert & overt narcissist and how those present. We hear about attachment styles, trauma, narcissistic fragility, the golden child syndrome, the temper tantrums, and what's actually going on in the brain when this happens. Tanya enlightens us to some of the behaviors of the narcissist, but also the impact it has on the victims. She talks about how difficult it can be to have to co-parent with a narcissist…and even gives several helpful tips and recommendations for those that are co-parenting with a narcissist…There is so much useful and validating information in this episode!
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Episode Two: DARVO & Love Bombing
Ginny Priem wrote this description of the episode:
This episode was requested by a listener and in it, Tanya shares with us the details of love bombing, why it is so effective, how narcissists use it and provides some really great examples of what love bombing is and what it isn't.
She also provides significant context around how this can happen not just in romantic relationships, but also in familial relationships, with colleagues and with friends.
She also breaks down DARVO for us. This is a manipulative tactic that narcissists use and falls under the umbrella of gaslighting. It's an acronym that stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim & Offender. It can leave the victim feeling confused and make them question reality.
Tanya also gets into some of the science of the wiring of the brain and why narcissists may throw what's referred to as "adult temper tantrums" and how/why they may even believe their own lies or deny behavior and actions they did indeed engage in or perform.
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Episode Three: TBD
The Unfilteredd Podcast with host Juliana Akin
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Episode One: 5 Strategies for Overcoming Guilt
In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the guilt that narcissistic abuse causes:
Start using positive affirmations to form new neural pathways (05:30)
Understand how guilt is part of the grieving process and take time and space to grieve (11:06)
Understand how the role of culture affects your feelings of guilt (24:16)
Try out imaginary role playing exercises (34:01)
Assess if your values are coming from a healthy place or trauma (42:38)
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Episode Two: 5 Strategies for Overcoming Emotional Dysregulation
In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the emotional dysregulation that narcissistic abuse causes:
Proactive coping skills (01:39)
Reactive coping skills (09:05)
Top-down approach for regulation (24:32)
Bottom-up approach for regulation (34:06)
Distinguishing parts to respond more mindfully in the present (45:28)
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Episode Three: coming soon
Books:
Out of the Fog: Moving from Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse by Dana Morningstar
Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance by Kelly McDaniel
Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love the People Who Hurt Us (2013), rewrite in 2018 to The Codependent Narcissist Trap by Ross Rosenberg
It’s My Turn: How to Gain Freedom from a Manipulating and Self-Centered Parent by Tina Fuller
How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Dr. Nicole LePera
Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real
What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo
On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay to be Good by Elise Loehnen
The Hormone Shift: Balance Your Body and Thrive Through Midlife and Beyond by Dr. Tasneem Bhatia
Social media/Instagram:
@understandingthenarc (Maria Consiglio)
@narcissistic_abuse_life_coach
@the.holistic.psychologist (Dr. Nicole LePera)
@anxiousheartsguide
Apps:
Silencio – for support when going no contact